When someone has a vested interest in “getting you,” of course, their behavior will be dictated by that need to meet their desires. It’s usually when that agenda is gone, and they feel they have you that the true Green Flags show up.
- Do they continue prioritizing you?
- Do they still treat you just as well?
- Do they still listen to you and have an interest in your life?
- Do they still call you and text you as often or more?
- Is the relationship building?
- Is trust building?
- How is Discord handled?
- How do you feel when you aren’t around them?
When you aren’t around them, notice if you feel anxious, worried, untrusting, or settled, secure, and calm. Our nervous system often can give us signals that our brain hasn’t tuned into yet.
Once you get in the habit of staying true to yourself, watching for signs, being proactive in asking the right questions, and being open to hearing the truth, you can vet a potential partner much quicker.
The best way to keep yourself from major heartbreak is to love yourself enough to be ok with walking away at any time and take care of yourself. Noticing the green flags in the beginning is just the honeymoon stage, and not falling for it too soon is the next best way to prevent heartbreak. Just notice! It’s all great information!
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