I see so many experts, coaches say they can help you make Him or Her BEG to be your boyfriend/ girlfriend. First off, that turns my stomach, makes me feel really unsettled. It is so manipulative in nature – even if the actual content to do …
Seeing things from only your own upset is one of the things that most of us do! Not easy to admit we might have made a mistake or was quick to judge. Earlier last year I was recovering from major surgery on my right arm. …
Comfort zone Vice or Coping? Can you determine if your “comfort or numbing” behavior is a vice or a coping behavior? It can be both. Here is the deciding factor. If you get a drink to numb or vice down the stress in your life …
Follow through is a turn on to women. It is yummy, delicious and sexy. Why, because to a feminine woman a man keeping his word equals Trust, Ease, Security and Respect. That, in turn, creates love and arrousal. She can love all the other qualities …
I’m pro Men, I’m not against Women. This situation came up recently, in interacting with a couple of men. Men can see how I respect them, read my articles, see that I “get men” and can appreciate them, understand them. That doesn’t mean I’m against …
Using anger to deflect. How might using subtle anger be used to deflect an issue? Have you as a man been taught this behavior? Is she distant, uncommunicative and non intimate? It’s an opportunity to look at your part. Instead of being so injured by her non response that is creates victimization.
Putting men in a no win situation. I had this conversation this holiday about women putting men in a no win situation. Sometimes we are looking for compliments, and the way we phrase it, sounds insecure, and sets guys up to have no clue how …
Learning from victimhood. I often find very helpful information in my own process for my work. This of course is my judgement that is what makes a great therapist. One that has been there, done that. So, in speaking of victimhood recently and my ongoing …
Sharing VS. Vomiting your problems to Women. Men, I was told by a man, ” You know men when they find a listening ear” start sharing their problems. This was a coach that was sharing his problems with me his client, on my dime. That …