Seeing Things From Only Your Own Upset!
Seeing things from only your own upset is one of the things that most of us do! Not easy to admit we might have made a mistake or was quick to judge. Earlier last year I was recovering from major […]
Comfort Zone Vice or Coping
Comfort zone Vice or Coping? Can you determine if your “comfort or numbing” behavior is a vice or a coping behavior? It can be both. Here is the deciding factor. If you get a drink to numb or vice down […]
Follow through is a turn on to Women
Follow through is a turn on to women. It is yummy, delicious and sexy. Why, because to a feminine woman a man keeping his word equals Trust, Ease, Security and Respect. That, in turn, creates love and arrousal. She can […]
I'm pro Men, I'm not against Women
I’m pro Men, I’m not against Women. This situation come up recently, in interacting with a couple of men. Men can see how I respect them, read my articles, see that I ” get men” and can appreciate them, understand […]
Gaslighting Deflects off the Real Issue
Using anger to deflect. How might using subtle anger be used to deflect an issue? Have you as a man been taught this behavior? Is she distant, uncommunicative and non intimate? It’s an opportunity to look at your part. Instead of being so injured by her non response that is creates victimization.
Putting men in no win situation
Putting men in a no win situation. I had this conversation this holiday about women putting men in a no win situation. Sometimes we are looking for compliments, and the way we phrase it, sounds insecure, and sets guys up […]
Learning from Victimhood
Learning from victimhood. I often find very helpful information in my own process for my work. This of course is my judgement that is what makes a great therapist. One that has been there, done that. So, in speaking of […]
Sharing vs Vomiting your problems to Women
Sharing VS. Vomiting your problems to Women. Men, I was told by a man, ” you know men, when they find a listening ear” start sharing their problems. This was a coach that was sharing his problems to me his […]
Guys you hate it when a Woman tries to change you.
Guys, you hate it when a woman tries to change you. You don’t want to have to change, you think she should just accept you as you are. Ok here is a scenario. She has worked hard on herself to […]
Conscious Communication
Conscious Communication! Example: A friend of mine allowed me to share something that occurred with her and her husband. This is so much an example of how our projecting minds can get in the way of love: “Mike goes outside […]