The new buzzword is mindful relationships. But what is a mindful relationship? It’s the exact same as conscious relationships. It’s paying attention to where things are going in the relationship. It’s also is making mindful decisions and reevaluating as you go. Often, having an intent on a mindful relationship is what couples do, but the hard work involved in making choices, sitting with uncomfortable feelings, emotions, and reactions until you get to resolve. It’s about doing your own inner work (which can get messy at times) and keeping your self-containment.
Mindful relationships are about self-growth and growing as a couple. It’s three relationships. Each relationship is nurtured and cared for. It takes being mindful of what needs, need to be met for each relationship. It’s a proactive job.
- Discuss until resolved and not until tired of discussing it
- Do their own inner work and discuss needs and feelings
- Pause (this is a process) when they notice patterns repeating
- Have a plan for the relationship
- Set up a schedule for check-in to keep things from building up
- Commit to their own personal growth as well as the relationship
- Check in frequently to see if there is anything to discuss
- Sit with uncomfortable feelings & emotions
- Stay in your lane
- Walk your talk
- Take responsibility for your part (and only your part)
- Work on not projecting our stuff outward
Awareness is key whether you are calling it a mindful relationship, a conscious relationship, or just a relationship. It’s what you do that matters. It’s the actions you take. It’s a journey, not a destination. It can get messy as we grow. This is part of the process of unraveling conditioning and unsupportive beliefs. For more information on what is a conscious relationship get my Ebook, The Awakening!
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