Choosing between three guys can be a challenging decision. Making conscious decisions to choose a partner can be counter-intuitive. We often just want to go with the guy we feel the most “chemistry” with. The one we are physically connected with. When circle dating we want to decide on the best guy. The more compatible choice. While a quiz cannot make the decision for you, it can help you reflect on the important factors and prioritize what matters most to you. Here’s a quiz to assist you in evaluating your feelings and considerations for each person:
- Take a piece of paper or open a new document to record your answers.
- Number your paper from 1 to 10, leaving enough space to write your responses.
- For each question, assign a rating from 1 to 10 based on your personal preferences, compatibility, and experiences. The higher the rating, the more the statement resonates with you. Be honest with yourself while answering. No one needs to see this but you.
- Once you’ve answered all the questions, review your responses and consider the patterns or trends that emerge. Look at your relationship history and see if you can catch a pattern that you do not want to repeat again. Remember, this is just one tool to assist you in your decision-making process.
Be completely honest and transparent when answering the questions:
- How well do you get along with each guy? Rate their compatibility with you.
- How much do your interests and values align with each guy?
- Emotional Connection:
- How comfortable and understood do you feel when you’re with each guy?
- How easily can you share your feelings with each of them?
- How effectively do you communicate with each guy?
- Do you feel heard and understood by each person?
- How much trust do you have in each guy?
- Have they consistently shown themselves to be reliable and trustworthy?
- Future Goals:
- How well do your future goals align with each guy?
- Do they support and encourage your aspirations?
- How strong is the physical and romantic attraction with each guy?
- Do you feel a spark or connection?
- How supportive are each guy’s actions and words towards you?
- Do they encourage and uplift you?
- How good of a friend is each guy to you?
- Do they see you as more than a romantic partner?
- Deal Breakers:
- Are there any deal breakers or major red flags with any of the guys?
- Do you feel comfortable and safe in each relationship?
- When you imagine a future with each guy, which one feels more healthy for you?
- What does your gut instinct tell you?
Remember, this quiz is just a tool to help you organize your thoughts and feelings. Ultimately, the decision is yours. It’s important to listen to your heart, trust your instincts, and choose what feels right for you in the long run. Keep in mind your non-negotiables. Contact me for an Intro into Awakening Session if you want to explore this more.
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