Hi, I’m Lisa Hawkins!

My journey

My journey began way before any romantic relationships developed. As a child, conditioned through society and my family, I believed toxic behaviours were normal. I was determined as I grew older to do things differently. However, despite my eagerness, insecurity and family dynamics led to other issues.

Growing up, I was constantly told to “suck it up” and “forgive and forget”. I learned to not believe my feelings or listen to alarms regarding others’ behaviour. This resulted in the development of unhealthy boundaries, which greatly affected my relationships throughout my life. Because I didn’t have a meter to gauge when I should walk away from a never-ending cycle of “forgive and forget”. I didn’t understand that love doesn’t mean staying and it doesn’t mean tolerating.

My marriage didn’t work out like a Harlequin Romance. My husband brutally beat me up, and I felt continually used, abused, and discarded. I was a shell of a person. I hit rock bottom.

I am a fighter, so I kept getting back up and trying. I was determined to have a good, healthy relationship, but despite my efforts, I made little progress. I still attracted toxic people. Not just men – but especially men.

Heartbroken! I was determined to understand my relationships. I’ve worked hard over the last 30 years to understand why I was attracted to the same type of relationships, what shifts I needed to make to break the pattern and how I could heal my trauma. Eventually, I saw there was a world outside of my inherited fate. Healthy people did exist, and it was possible for me to have a healthy relationship. But first, I knew I had to be willing to make a lifelong commitment to this self-reflective journey.

From survivor to guide.

Since 2002, my inner work has become not just a healing path, but my life’s true calling. I’m a certified coach and counselor with 26 years of experience across personal growth, psychology, and human behavior, with a special focus on dating, relationships, and the most important relationship of all: the one with yourself.

I’m a certified Life Coach, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Coach, and Dating & Relationship Coach. I practice self-inquiry and inner growth work daily because it’s not just my profession, it’s my way of life.

Ultimately, I help people who desire more fulfilling relationships and a deeper sense of inner peace. When we bravely address the parts of our life that are holding us back, we begin to see change ripple across every other area.

Love is something we all crave. Not just love from others, but the pure, unconditional inner love that allows us to express our true nature freely. Looking inward is often the scariest step, but it’s where the real transformation begins.